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EP 28: Who's Running Your Life?

EP 28: Who's Running Your Life?

Today I want us to explore a question that has the power to unlock tremendous breakthroughs in our lives: Who is running your life?

In my Dream Bigger Mastermind, this question often marks a pivotal moment for my clients. Picture this: You're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, knowing that change is needed. You have dreams to chase, but despite having all the information and knowing the necessary actions, there's a part of you keeping you frozen, stuck in avoidance, and self-sabotage. So, who is this invisible force?

Let me share a recent experience from the Dream Bigger Mastermind. One of my clients, a small business owner, needed simple changes, like adjusting prices for financial sustainability. The logical adult part understood, but there was resistance. Her to-do list was ignored and her anxiety was rising.

Upon closer examination, it became clear that her teenage self was the decision-maker, fearing judgment, criticism, and rejection if prices were raised. Identifying this inner voice led to a profound breakthrough.

This brings us to a fundamental question: Who is running your life right now? Is it your inner child, teen, or perhaps societal conditioning? Unconscious influences can lead us to make decisions based on past traumas or fears, hindering our present growth and potential.

Now, let's talk about how to regain control. First, notice what you're avoiding in life. What tasks or decisions are constantly pushed aside? Then, take a moment to reflect. Close your eyes, take deep breaths, and explore the thoughts surrounding these actions. Write down your fears, creating distance and dismantling their power.

Next, list what is true today. Acknowledge your growth, the tools you've acquired, and the support you have, be it from a community, friends, or mentors. Recognize the shift in who you are today compared to yesterday.

Taking this introspective journey enables you to create an authentic life aligned with your values. It's about breaking free from unconscious patterns, deciding your own narrative, and not living out past traumas or ancestral conditioning.

As I often remind my clients, self-awareness is the key. Recognizing your growth empowers you to make decisions from a place of strength and self-trust. It's about being the person you are today, not the person you were a year or eight years ago.

Now, let's delve into another essential aspect of this journey: healing. Once you identify the part of you making decisions, connect with it. If it's your inner child, initiate a conversation, providing love, understanding, and reassurance.

For instance, my client with the business and the resistant teenage self needed reparenting. Acknowledging her teen's fear of abandonment, we assured her that running the business wasn't her responsibility. This collaborative approach allows different parts of you to play their roles harmoniously, reducing internal resistance.

Now, let's switch gears and address the impact of this healing work on relationships. One client struggled with boundaries, being always available for friends yet feeling drained. Unveiling her fear of losing friends if not constantly available exposed a scarcity mindset.

Through coaching, we reframed her perspective, emphasizing the abundance of friendships and the importance of self-care. Reflecting on the past year, she realized she had made new friends despite having limited free time. The healing journey allowed her to reassess relationships, creating healthier boundaries without cutting ties.

This work goes beyond personal transformation; it ripples into your connections with others. As you show up consciously, others observe and unconsciously absorb the shifts. The magic of healing lies in its ripple effect.

By practicing self-regulation and setting boundaries, you become a beacon for others. You show what's possible, inspiring those around you to embrace their own growth. This transformation isn't just for yourself; it's a gift to the collective consciousness.

So, as you embark on the journey of self-discovery, remember that healing is a collaborative process. Connect with others, share your challenges, and learn from their experiences. This is the essence of the Dream Bigger Mastermind—an empowering community where individual growth is accelerated through shared wisdom.

I encourage you to reflect on who's been running your life. Share your insights with me; I'd love to hear your stories. And if you're ready to dive deeper into this transformative journey, join the waitlist for the Dream Bigger Mastermind. Together, let's uncover the blocks, rewrite the narrative, and step into a life aligned with our true selves.

Thank you for being here, and remember, you're the author of your story. Embrace the power to create a life that reflects the beautiful soul you are. Until next time, breathe more and shine bright! 


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