How to Regulate Your Nervous System for Manifestation (So You Stop Self-Sabotaging What You Want)

Ana Lilia
15 minutes ago
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If you’ve ever said you want more, prayed for more, visualized more, worked for more… and then somehow found yourself pulling back the second it started getting real, I want you to hear this clearly:

You’re not "bad" at manifesting.

Most of the time, it’s simpler than that.

Your nervous system just doesn’t feel safe yet.

And if your body doesn’t feel safe, it will find a way to keep you in what’s familiar, even if what’s familiar is exhausting.

That’s why people can do “all the mindset work” and still hit invisible ceilings.

Because manifestation is not just about what you want.

It’s about what you can hold.

The part nobody wants to admit: your body has a vote

Manifestation spaces love talking about frequency and thoughts and vision.

All of that matters.

But if your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, your body is constantly scanning for threat. That can look like anxiety, urgency, over-control, perfectionism, numbing out, or shutting down.

And when your body is in that state, it’s very hard to receive:

more money
more visibility
deeper love
bigger opportunities
a new identity that requires you to be seen

Because receiving requires presence and it also requires capacity, which is a nervous system thing.

Signs you’re trying to manifest from dysregulation

We aren't talking about the dramatic kind of dysregulation, but rather the everyday kind.

You might recognize yourself here:

You get a burst of clarity, then immediately overwhelm yourself with ten steps
You start something new, then procrastinate when it’s time to be visible
You ask for more, then feel guilt the moment you receive it
You overthink your next move until you do nothing
You “rest” but your mind is still racing
You keep saying you want expansion, but your body feels tight just thinking about it

These are all signaling a nervous system pattern.

Why “affirmations” don’t always work

Even if you resonate with the affirmations in your practice, your body might still be bracing.

You can tell yourself “I am safe” all day long, but if your shoulders are up to your ears and your breath is shallow, your system is sending a louder message:

Something isn’t safe here.

So instead of trying to override your body with more thoughts, the question becomes:

What would it take for my body to actually feel safe enough to move forward?

A simple way to build capacity (without forcing your next level)

Here are three practices I give clients who want to expand, but don’t want to burn themselves out trying.

1) Practice the “long exhale” when you’re about to spiral (2 minutes)

This is one of the fastest ways to tell your system: we’re not in danger.

Inhale through your nose for 4.

Exhale slowly for 6–8.

Do it 6 times.

Then ask:

What am I afraid will happen if I actually receive this?

You’ll be surprised how much truth comes up when your body softens first.

2) Take one aligned action that your body can tolerate

Not the biggest or most impressive step, just the one that doesn’t send you into panic.

Examples:

Send the email (without overthinking or rewriting it 12 times)
Post the thing, but don’t obsess over the views or likes
Say no once, even if your nervous system hates it at first

Capacity builds through consistency, not intensity.

3) Name the subconscious belief that shows up at the edge of expansion

This is where it gets real.

Because usually the belief isn’t “I can’t have it.”

It’s more like:

If I have it, I’ll lose people
If I’m seen, I’ll be judged
If I receive more, I’ll have to work harder forever
If I relax, something will fall apart
If I get what I want, I won’t know who I am anymore

Your body protects you with these beliefs. It thinks it’s keeping you safe.

Let's not fight it. Let's work with it.

The truth about your “next level”

Your next level is not something you think your way into.

It’s something you become safe enough to hold.

And that’s why embodiment matters.

Because your nervous system doesn’t change from information. But it will start changing from experience and being in a room where you feel held, regulated, and guided into a new internal baseline.

Ready for Your Next Level?

If you're ready, I want to invite you to Dream Bigger Live with Ana Lilia.

A one-day immersive retreat in Downtown LA designed to help you regulate your nervous system, release limiting beliefs, and embody the version of you who can actually hold what you’re calling in.

You’ll experience breathwork, money hypnosis, tapping, ancestral healing, soundbath, and more alongside people like you who are ready for real change, not surface-level inspiration.

If you...

Have done mindset work but still hit invisible ceilings...

Are craving expansion without burnout...

Want to grow — but not at the cost of your peace...

Join us! You do not need prior manifestation experience. You just need willingness to show up honestly.

Event Details:

Saturday, February 28 10am - 4pm

Downtown Los Angeles, CA

Your ticket includes:

• Full-day retreat

• All activations

• Guest expert sessions