I have a confession to make…I have been a controlling person my whole life. Growing up with an alcoholic father made things feel really unstable at home and I remember feeling as a child like there wasn’t an adult in charge. Which made me feel like the only way to stay safe is for me to be in control of everything. Well, as an adult that coping mechanism was not working for me. It was causing me a lot of stress when I felt like I wasn’t in control. And it also created conflicts with people when I was trying to control them.
Here are 4 tips to stop stressing about things you can’t control. The first thing is learn the difference between what you can control and what you can’t. Next, switch to problem solving mode. Instead of stressing out, is there something you can do to change the situation? 3. Find a distraction when you find yourself obsessing over things. Talk to a friend, exercise, journal, do something you like to do. And lastly, identity your emotional triggers.